I've just read those damn words again:
"real women have curves"
But so many of you who say this also say you advocate "Size Acceptance" and "Health at Every Size"?
Now for those of you who just say you advocate for "Fat Acceptance" I don't mind this in the least. You are not implying that you speak for me. As a fat woman you have every right to push back against societal stereotypes and inequities - and you know what - I support you! I think society is very unfair, biased and down-right appalling in it's general treatment of fat people.
But I'm here (complete with ranty pants) to tell you that if you want to speak for "Heath at EVERY size" you sure better include MY size in that - as well as EVERYONE elses.
Because I exist.
And what is it exactly that you think makes you a MORE real woman than me?
I'm a woman.
I have had three babies.
I have a loving husband and wonderful friends.
I laugh and love and cry and dream.
I am strong.
I have a career I love.
I am getting healthier every day.
I am not the size of my trousers any more than you are!
And don't you dare say that I am a fat-hater. At no point anywhere in my blog or in my life have I judged anyone by their size. You know nothing of my history or my experiences. So that won't ever be justification for how inferior you have tried to make me feel.
This issue has nothing to do with being fat or being skinny. It's about accepting people for who they are - regardless of size. That REAL WOMEN come in all shapes and sizes, and being skinny does not make you less, any more than being fat does.
So if you think it is offensive for someone to judge you based on your size, well guess what sister - that's exactly what you just did to me - and I am offended. And you are a hypocrite.
Your words have power, and meaning, and they hurt.
And if you insist on telling me you are more real than I am I will call you on it. I have found my voice and I am not afraid to be me anymore.
I am not better than you. But I sure as hell am not any less real than you either.