tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.comments2019-11-20T19:17:45.381+11:00recovery, PJ stylePJhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14486135269960422312noreply@blogger.comBlogger399125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-22308476834070088442015-08-18T10:09:58.570+10:002015-08-18T10:09:58.570+10:00Hope your doing okay xxxxHope your doing okay xxxxPlanningQueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00361217277292340913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-21826017266966773442015-08-14T22:45:24.018+10:002015-08-14T22:45:24.018+10:00Stick with it please.Stick with it please.HikerRDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15170145903147301280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-54161959115802225722014-02-10T06:32:13.248+11:002014-02-10T06:32:13.248+11:00I think the word mental is where the stigma sticks...I think the word mental is where the stigma sticks. It's a sad fact that in the 21st century there is still this stigma that just because you have a 'mental illness' must mean you crazy or dangerous to others in someway. Mental health disorders come in many different forms and not just one. It's like if you have a physical illness it's like 'aww' but a mental illness sometimes = 'just get over it' or avoidance. It's sad that these old judgemental views still exist along with homophobia and racism. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17314798170409897853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-75074656631805987502013-06-19T09:54:49.057+10:002013-06-19T09:54:49.057+10:00It's going to be ending of mine day, except be...It's going to be ending of mine day, except before finish I am reading this wonderful piece of writing to increase my knowledge.<br /><br />Here is my blog <a href="http://www.krrunch.com/janina.jeffrey" rel="nofollow">twitter followers</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-33587927641010523622012-10-11T02:04:19.820+11:002012-10-11T02:04:19.820+11:00Great...great post as per usual PJ..I so relate to...Great...great post as per usual PJ..I so relate to this, as I am in the exact situation (age bracket..inability to "rekindle" my restriction "mojo"..) and have been putting off cancelling my scheduled ED team appointment this Friday...Why??..Because of what you have stated so eloquently just here...Perhaps the will to live is finally overtaking the will to keep listening to Ed...Sign of a healthy..or wanting to be healthy mind? Hope so!..Oh..so I'm going to actually keep the Friday appointment with my team...who I have been avoiding for months now..<br /><br />Also...I find that your posts/writing positively nourishes my soul..and for some reason I had not been receiving your posts..Could you verify if I am still "logged in" as confirmed follower of your blog?...Thanks for all you share....Big fan.Donnanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-79690605820339091042012-08-22T11:25:28.921+10:002012-08-22T11:25:28.921+10:00@ebby - you misunderstand me - my daughter is the ...@ebby - you misunderstand me - my daughter is the most beautiful girl and I tell her this. What I don't want her thinking is that skinny and pretty are the same thing. She can be her natural body shape (which at the moment is a bit soft and cuddly) and will always still be beautiful. But beauty doesn't have to just be what you see. I put far more value on inner beauty than on prefect skin and hair any day.<br />PJPJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14486135269960422312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-22469268707482852342012-08-17T19:29:58.944+10:002012-08-17T19:29:58.944+10:00'Healthy and `strong' as opposed to 's...'Healthy and `strong' as opposed to 'skinny and pretty'... really? I would argue that healthy and strong are synonymous with pretty, and that skinny (if not someone's natural body composition) will actually not be pretty because being undernourished will result in bad skin, lank hair etc etc. I just think that it's a shame, that even where we try to encourage a healthy approach to diet and exercise, we still seem to be saying, 'you should chose being healthy OVER being pretty', and if people were good at choosing health, then there would be far less disordered eating in the first place. Just my thoughts on the subject . ebbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00259192187056387050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-63507396865711929602012-08-16T16:41:41.649+10:002012-08-16T16:41:41.649+10:00I love this too! I ruminate, ruminate and ruminate...I love this too! I ruminate, ruminate and ruminate some more!! About my mistakes, but even about my achievements...were they really what people said they were, as I cant decide for myself because nothing is ever ok enough!<br />As one of my close friends said, being in my mind must be so exhausting...uhh,yeah!!!<br />Thank you heaps for this post..i'm going to try to chill-ax. xxooJenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04153018463752943234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-79282682882622261452012-08-09T07:11:18.935+10:002012-08-09T07:11:18.935+10:00Love this post!Love this post!HikerRDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15170145903147301280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-61917656633748522792012-08-07T09:58:24.132+10:002012-08-07T09:58:24.132+10:00Sounds like a great idea.
I have one of those very...Sounds like a great idea.<br />I have one of those very 'cool cucumbers' over here too.<br />He balances my 'mad cow' very well.<br />xxMum on the Runhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16543791863884733714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-47654415694567843192012-08-07T05:07:11.312+10:002012-08-07T05:07:11.312+10:00I vote for MrPJ too!!I vote for MrPJ too!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04254533027435761719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-73872478112331055272012-08-03T00:24:51.656+10:002012-08-03T00:24:51.656+10:00Great post, very thought provoking. I have been gu...Great post, very thought provoking. I have been guilty of posting stuff like this in my darkest moments. I try to delete these posts afterwards, when I start to feel better, but sometimes I don't get them all or forget, and then I'll see them there months later (since f-bk saves everything) and I'll be SO embarrassed. The main reason I would post these things was validation I think- I mean, I was so so sad and hopeless and afraid, and I knew that the ppl on my f-book couldn't exacatly save me, but at that point even a kind word or a 'hang in there' would have helped, maybe.<br />In the case of your friend's daughter, I think she should stop communicating electronically with this friend, at least for the time being; hopefully they will both get to a point where they won't feel so desperately low (in the friend's case) or be so vulnerable to the triggering texts (in your friend's daughter's case), but until they get to that point, they have to do everything they can to protect themselves. These texts do not seem to be doing any good for either one of them.if the moon smiledhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00402691958026425673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-6091480928814401032012-08-02T07:03:37.680+10:002012-08-02T07:03:37.680+10:00I know you posted forever ago, but I think it is s...I know you posted forever ago, but I think it is so great! I am so happy for you :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-3100040292347514492012-07-31T21:22:37.798+10:002012-07-31T21:22:37.798+10:00Thank you lovely readers :)
And yes, Abby - seekin...Thank you lovely readers :)<br />And yes, Abby - seeking permission is definitely true too. I agree it's probably tied up a bit with validation - there may be an element of I don't think I'm worth saving but if you can give me permission to eat then I will either a) do it for you, or b) be able to do it bc I can blame you. Either is ok bc the outcome is still eating.<br />And thank you for giving me a #5!! :)PJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14486135269960422312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-49896344800555883112012-07-29T04:36:32.316+10:002012-07-29T04:36:32.316+10:00Thank you for helping parents get underneath these...Thank you for helping parents get underneath these responses and for putting the priority on self-care for the patient in our own home.Laura Collinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11914994901576791079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-67010413743363342902012-07-27T05:18:39.066+10:002012-07-27T05:18:39.066+10:00Great post PJ! Every person is so different!Great post PJ! Every person is so different!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04254533027435761719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-92159102305522117322012-07-27T04:56:13.098+10:002012-07-27T04:56:13.098+10:00This point will kind of go along with the "va...This point will kind of go along with the "validation" issue, but I think it's also to seek permission. I know there are times that I don't trust myself-or rather, shouldn't trust myself-and don't think I have "permission" to not exercise or to eat extra without feeling like a big lazy slug. I need the reassurance that I am actually sick and not just screwed up in the head. <br /><br />Considering I rarely seek validation or permission in other areas of my life, this often makes me feel so immature, but it's true. I need to see it spelled out. I need permission to heal.Abbyhttp://www.abbyhasissues.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-59390893684082544972012-07-14T15:32:42.974+10:002012-07-14T15:32:42.974+10:00Three cheers for PJ ... Hope the yum cha was great...Three cheers for PJ ... Hope the yum cha was great. xMMnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-34800606151207439282012-07-14T04:38:08.291+10:002012-07-14T04:38:08.291+10:00This is such a turning point- to get to the place ...This is such a turning point- to get to the place where your will to live and thrive is stronger than the ED voice. Go for the gold!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-81653205114666951592012-07-13T23:36:56.378+10:002012-07-13T23:36:56.378+10:00PJ, my heart also in throat on this.
To my mind, ...PJ, my heart also in throat on this.<br /><br />To my mind, those thoughts and tendencies ARE an eating disorder. I don't think they're voluntary or happen naturally to all people. I think they are a sign of an underlying predisposition.<br /><br />Now, that doesn't mean a person is doomed to actually suffer from having that predisposition. In a family and environment that is clued in - as you are - you can keep the thoughts and compulsions from becoming a self-perpetuating cycle. You can strengthen the parts of the person's skills and thinking that counteract them. You can offer an environment that defuses these tendencies and load a young person up with other behaviors and thoughts during that critical period of development when such things take root and get hold.<br /><br />I wish I had a clue when our daughter began thinking and doing these things. Had I seen them for what they were my response would have been calmer, more effective, and more confident. Instead: I floundered. I felt guilty. I argued. I didn't know good help from bad.<br /><br />I don't think an ED predisposition is destiny. But it can't be ignored, and you won't. You will do the right things.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-52102080620053913172012-07-13T23:36:06.900+10:002012-07-13T23:36:06.900+10:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17219492984914810944noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-46042417660863205212012-07-13T12:19:46.829+10:002012-07-13T12:19:46.829+10:00not only choosing to live, but choosing to enjoy a...not only choosing to live, but choosing to enjoy and feel living. you are so beautifully tapping into owning a whole new mojo. I smiled reading this, I am feeling the same at the moment…. I just want to be healthy and all of this to be behind me. to get on with life. and that's, that :)C-Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09092376059461299715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-26337072228796861082012-07-13T05:02:09.297+10:002012-07-13T05:02:09.297+10:00Awesome PJ!!!!!!!Awesome PJ!!!!!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04254533027435761719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-82897107466988168042012-07-12T22:22:52.774+10:002012-07-12T22:22:52.774+10:00Love this, PJ! So, so awesome! I'm proud of yo...Love this, PJ! So, so awesome! I'm proud of your courage to push away the ED voice and ask that question, it's definitely provided the enlightenment it seems you needed to kick some ED arse!Lhttp://strongerbraversmarter.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-25770289104093983652012-07-12T20:48:04.592+10:002012-07-12T20:48:04.592+10:00Loved reading about this development, PJ. SO glad...Loved reading about this development, PJ. SO glad you asked, too. xoxoxoRosie Molinaryhttp://www.rosiemolinary.comnoreply@blogger.com