blame, responsibility and forgiveness

I have (not unexpectedly) been giving a lot of thought to my last post on blame and why I blame myself for everything. A number of you were kind enough to reach out and let me know that I am not alone in this futile pursuit, and thinking about it in the lives of others has helped me to look at the situation more objectively. So again I thank you for sharing your own stories with me :)

This is where I'm at now:

• Blame is of no use. It wastes time and energy and does not fix anything.
  
• It is possible for no-one to be to blame in a situation.
  
• Just because the other person is not to blame does not automatically make me to blame by default.
  
• Taking responsibility is a much more proactive and positive way to reframe my negative thoughts.
  
• I can be responsible for solving a problem without being to blame for causing it.
  
• If an altercation occurs which I am not to blame for, I still have the power of forgiveness.
  
• Forgiveness does not mean having to apologise or feel small.
  
• Forgiveness simply means letting go of blame.

Oh and you'll like this one...

I can still be responsible for my recovery
without being to blame for my illness.