tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post1068159346557418628..comments2019-11-20T19:17:45.381+11:00Comments on recovery, PJ style: cry for help or attention seeking?PJhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14486135269960422312noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-73872478112331055272012-08-03T00:24:51.656+10:002012-08-03T00:24:51.656+10:00Great post, very thought provoking. I have been gu...Great post, very thought provoking. I have been guilty of posting stuff like this in my darkest moments. I try to delete these posts afterwards, when I start to feel better, but sometimes I don't get them all or forget, and then I'll see them there months later (since f-bk saves everything) and I'll be SO embarrassed. The main reason I would post these things was validation I think- I mean, I was so so sad and hopeless and afraid, and I knew that the ppl on my f-book couldn't exacatly save me, but at that point even a kind word or a 'hang in there' would have helped, maybe.<br />In the case of your friend's daughter, I think she should stop communicating electronically with this friend, at least for the time being; hopefully they will both get to a point where they won't feel so desperately low (in the friend's case) or be so vulnerable to the triggering texts (in your friend's daughter's case), but until they get to that point, they have to do everything they can to protect themselves. These texts do not seem to be doing any good for either one of them.if the moon smiledhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00402691958026425673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-3100040292347514492012-07-31T21:22:37.798+10:002012-07-31T21:22:37.798+10:00Thank you lovely readers :)
And yes, Abby - seekin...Thank you lovely readers :)<br />And yes, Abby - seeking permission is definitely true too. I agree it's probably tied up a bit with validation - there may be an element of I don't think I'm worth saving but if you can give me permission to eat then I will either a) do it for you, or b) be able to do it bc I can blame you. Either is ok bc the outcome is still eating.<br />And thank you for giving me a #5!! :)PJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14486135269960422312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-49896344800555883112012-07-29T04:36:32.316+10:002012-07-29T04:36:32.316+10:00Thank you for helping parents get underneath these...Thank you for helping parents get underneath these responses and for putting the priority on self-care for the patient in our own home.Laura Collinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11914994901576791079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-67010413743363342902012-07-27T05:18:39.066+10:002012-07-27T05:18:39.066+10:00Great post PJ! Every person is so different!Great post PJ! Every person is so different!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04254533027435761719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5185900789964201515.post-92159102305522117322012-07-27T04:56:13.098+10:002012-07-27T04:56:13.098+10:00This point will kind of go along with the "va...This point will kind of go along with the "validation" issue, but I think it's also to seek permission. I know there are times that I don't trust myself-or rather, shouldn't trust myself-and don't think I have "permission" to not exercise or to eat extra without feeling like a big lazy slug. I need the reassurance that I am actually sick and not just screwed up in the head. <br /><br />Considering I rarely seek validation or permission in other areas of my life, this often makes me feel so immature, but it's true. I need to see it spelled out. I need permission to heal.Abbyhttp://www.abbyhasissues.comnoreply@blogger.com